The Viciousness of The Victim Mentality

 Mentality is the particular attitude or thinking of a person or a group. Our mentality plays a huge role in our lives. The way we think about circumstances and situations is what controls our outlook.

What is happening to you has happened to someone for nothing is new under the sun. The differentiator between you and all the others who are going through what you are going through is mentality. I recently watched a video in which Jamie Foxx was  talking about the time Mike Tyson had gone broke and lost almost everything, he said he gave him a call and said how are you doing, Mike Tyson responded and said "All Praises to Allah, my brother I am happy". Now this is a warrior' mentality many of us seem to be without.

Many of us are not victims in reality but in our minds, there is always someone somewhere going through worse but we magnify our problems and blow things out of proportion. First I want to remind you that if you focus on your lack or misfortunes, they will be all you see, think or even speak about. Whatever you focus  on becomes magnified. Victims meditate on their problems that they see no solution or way out, so they go around telling everyone why it cannot be done, they are experts in the negative department. Wait let me even take it further they are professors of negativity... Do you know one of them, or are you one of them?

The mentality of being less than or worse off is rather dominant in our Society, it blinds many of us and we end up robbing ourselves without even realising it. Our identity is then influenced largely by the way we think about ourselves, we see ourselves as victims when in fact we are more than conquerors and were given dominion over all.Most want better results without putting in the work (THIS IS WHY PEOPLE LOVE GAMBLING) . Most want handouts  and they live a life of desperation and stagnation, this is in the DNA of poverty. They only try things once and  and give up too early, they are not resilient.

We all have something to offer the world but the unfortunate truth is that many people die withholding their gifts and talents because in their minds they cannot get anything done because of either social or economic factors. While it is true that in life there are many challenges, the big question  is ;are you going to let them stop you from being all you can be? are you going to think like a victim?

You were not born a victim, you became a victim when you decided to let the winds of the world sway you in any direction they like and refused to stand your ground. Ask anyone successful in any field of life if it was easy. Do you think it was easy for Christiano Ronaldo  became one of the highest ranking sportsmen of all time ? No but he had and still has a warriors mentality. He didn't give up in the face of adversity. He might have gone through some things you are going through right now but he decided he was going to get it done, no matter the cost, no matter the sacrifice. He used his challenges as fuel not as a reason to stop or quit or doubt himself. HE USED HIS CHALLENGES AS FUEL NOT AS A REASON TO STOP.

An animal as physically inferior as an ant has a warriors mentality, it refuses to back down and only stops fighting for what it wants once it dies. If an ant is trying to get somewhere it is going to do everything possible to make it happen, no matter the size of the obstacle or opposition. Conduct a simple experiment, block the path an ant is walking on and see if it will stop trying to find a way... You will see that the only way it will stop is if it dies otherwise it just keeps on keeping on. Learn from the ant, keep fighting, keep knocking and doors will be opened for you.

Many of us have too many reasons why we feel victimized by the world and situations, we are even defensive and we lack accountability. My challenge for you today is to start finding and focusing on the reason why you are chosen for such a time. Remember you only become a victim once you identify with being weak and overpowered. You have the free will to choose to change your mentality today.

Whoever left you is gone and whatever has happened is in the past, do not spend these precious moments of life feeling beaten down. A simple change in your mentality can take you from your present situation to the life of your dreams. Start speaking positively about yourself and appreciate the gift of Life, remember people die every single second of the day yet you are still here, do not spend you precious time living as a victim. I know many of us have many people we blame for our situations, from the government, to your parents or your children or your ex husband but we must look inwardly and always improve if we want to be winners. Do not let what they said stop you, do not doubt yourself.
YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

The victim mentality keeps you blind to opportunities and possibities. It keeps you in a dark negative space where there is no hope. I cannot free you from the shackles of the  victim mentality, but I can tell you that it will kill you and rob you of the great things you deserve.