Toxic Charity
The recurring problems with one-way donating are at the heart of Robert D. Lupton's book, "Toxic Charity," which he wrote. Even though I think giving is an incredibly important part of our lives, sometimes we cripple the receiver by giving so much that they end up being "harmed".When we give, our intention is never to harm the recipient but to help them; but, what actually happens is that the recipient becomes dependent on the donor. Robert continues by describing the following: 1.When you give once, others will appreciate it. 2. By giving twice, you can build expectation. 3. Create expectations by giving three times. 4.After four donations, something becomes a right. 5. Five "donations" will create dependency. When people know they can turn to you for whatever they now lack, one may argue that being dependable is a positive thing.Unfortunately, over time, this method de-empowers people, and it ultimately hurts the people we meant to aid. This is se...