What Do We Want from Relationships? (PART 1)

The relationships you make along the way can either be one of the reasons you reach your goals or one of the reasons you live a life without goals (Reason ,Purpose).

In order for you to have relationships ,people must see or find something that will attract them to you. Imagine if you had an actual magnetic field around you and you move around attracting different people ,who see qualities or habits  they like in you.The only role you have  is to choose who you are attracted to then an actual Relationship can "begin".

What I want us to focus on today is how to build long -lasting relationships. The question then is "What do people want from Relationships" ?because once we understand that we can have a clue on how to build friendships that will stand the test of time .

What do people want from Relationships? 

1.Acceptance :In many cases we just want someone who will accept us into their lives regardless of our past or where we come from or our financial status .

We all want people who will accept us even if they discover our worst imperfections ,people who will be with us as we work towards being better people .

In order for others to accept us we may have to accept them first without seeking to judge them or to fix them .We also want to know that you will not leave as soon as things get hard or when we do not see eye to eye because loyalty is very rare .As people we want to be surrounded by others who love us and accept us 

2.Encouragement :We all need to have people who will push us to go the extra mile ,people who will "hype us up " and help us to only believe the best and good things about ourselves. 

You need people who will encourage you and people who need encouragement need you .Many people die without ever using their gifts or talents only because no one encouraged them so they got discouraged and they never got to reach their highest potential.These individuals just needed a voice of love ,hope and belief and I am letting you know today that you can be that voice in someones life today 

3.Forgiveness :This one is pretty simple as it is complex these may seem totally contrary but follow me on this.If I do something wrong to you and you choose to hold a grudge our relationship will not last. If we want to build long lasting and strong relationships we must learn to forgive not only the people who ask for forgiveness but everyone who said or did something that might have hurt you and caused you any kind of pain (emotional ,physical..)

You might be asking yourself "How can I ever forgive so and so?"

The answer to that question is in this statement "Love your neighbours as you love yourself" this means treat others ecxatly how you want them to treat you .We all know that no human being is without a mistake ,I mean we all know that no one really knows it all so we can not get absolutely everything right ,we all have hurt someone else by our words or actions .We all need each other because we are better together than we are apart and "No man is an Island "we need each other in many ways than I can count in this book .

Most emotional problems are caused by the failure to forgive and /or unresolved conflicts (fights ,arguments ,misunderstandings...).A human being who forgives is a peaceful person because they are able to let go of things that happened in the past ,their focus is this present moment (The Now).Failure to forgive will always hurt you the most  ,people who do not forgive keep scores and always seek revenge so they are always stressed ,unhappy and focused on the people who hurt them instead of living their lives .

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